Navigating the Silent Struggle: Unravelling the Mental Health Challenges Faced by Men in the UK

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So what’s going on?

In the realm of mental health, an alarming trend has emerged in the United Kingdom, shedding light on a pressing issue that often goes unnoticed—the disproportionate prevalence of mental health problems among men, leading to higher rates of suicide. Men make up nearly 70% of suicides and it’s the biggest killer of men under 40. While mental health affects individuals of all genders, the statistics indicate that men face unique challenges that contribute to their increased vulnerability. So what are the factors contributing to men’s mental health struggle? How so we explore the importance of addressing self-sabotage, fostering effective communication, embracing vulnerability, and cultivating healthy habits to promote emotional well-being.

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The Silent Struggle:

The stigma surrounding mental health is pervasive, affecting both men and women. However, societal expectations and traditional gender norms often pressure men to conform to stoicism, strength, and independence, discouraging them from expressing vulnerability or seeking help when needed. This societal pressure can lead to a culture of silence, where men may internalize their struggles, exacerbating the impact of mental health issues. Watch this excellent video on recognising you might be depressed or suffering with your mental health by the World Health Authority (WHO) here

Understanding Self-Sabotage:

Self-sabotage is a common yet often overlooked aspect of mental health. Men may find themselves trapped in cycles of destructive behaviours or negative thought patterns, hindering their overall well-being. Identifying these self-sabotaging tendencies is crucial for breaking the cycle. Encouraging men to recognize their patterns, seek professional help, and adopt healthier coping mechanisms can be pivotal in reclaiming control over their mental health.

Watch our discussion on self sabotage here 

Communication Breakdown:

Effective communication is fundamental to mental health, yet men may struggle to express their emotions due to societal expectations. Encouraging open and honest conversations about mental health is crucial in breaking down these barriers. Friends, family, and colleagues can play an essential role by creating a supportive environment where men feel comfortable sharing their experiences without fear of judgment. Additionally, promoting mental health awareness campaigns can contribute to dismantling the stigma surrounding seeking help.

Embracing Vulnerability:

Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but rather a testament to courage and authenticity. Men need to recognize that embracing vulnerability is an essential component of mental health. Encouraging self-reflection and creating safe spaces where men can express their feelings fosters a sense of connection and belonging, mitigating the isolation that often accompanies mental health struggles. Like any habit, it’s often easier to be communicative and vulnerable once you just start so try and admit you seek change or need to improve both to people you trust or professionals. There is great strength in this and people will admire you and support you ! Often it’s all in our minds that we are failures, will be embarrassed or somehow afraid of dropping our mask. The shadows we carry are often removed once exposed to the light of other people and our own truth.

Cultivating Healthy Habits:

Physical and mental health are intricately connected. Studies shows exercise raises dopamine and endorphins that improves mood. Adopting healthy lifestyle habits, such as regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and sufficient sleep, reducing alcohol and drugs, can significantly impact mental and mind well-being. Engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfilment, whether it be hobbies, social interactions, or mindfulness practices, can serve as powerful tools in managing stress and promoting mental resilience. Don’t fear trying new practises that reset the nervous system – like cold water therapy, saunas, breathwork, varied and different forms of regular exercise, joining men’s sharing circles and attending retreats tailored for men can really rebalance your natural tendencies to spiral into overthinking negative loops.

Conclusion:

Addressing the mental health challenges faced by men in the UK requires a multifaceted approach that encompasses societal change, open communication, and the cultivation of healthy habits. By breaking the silence surrounding mental health, challenging traditional gender norms, and fostering environments that prioritize vulnerability and support, we can pave the way for a more inclusive and compassionate society. Together, we can dismantle the barriers that contribute to the alarming rates of suicide among men and work towards a future where mental well-being knows no gender. So if you are struggling reach out to loved ones or professionals. You can find a list of UK therapists here

If you would like to discuss any aspect of your mind health and steps to improve drop Ed or Mark a line in the contact us section and we can jump on a call for an hour to discuss tailored coaching.

Tips on Parenting Teenagers and substance abuse

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Parenting can be a challenging task, especially when many of us don’t have the capability to navigate our own complex emotions and especially when we are concerned about drugs and alcohol, many of which parents have tried or used (or still do). Telling your teenage children to not drink and never try drugs would seem hypocritical if you have taken, or still take, that path. If you haven’t, then it’s a slightly different dynamic, but simply saying don’t do something seems a little out of touch when your children can join the army, drive, have sex, marry and leave school very soon.

If you’ve been open with them they might even know your past or current activities with drugs and alcohol and it does not seem right to lie to your children either. Ultimately you need to judge what is best for your family and much will depend how transparent you have been previously, your children’s current development path and how you feel your children view personal responsibility, decision making, health and other issues. Ultimately, we don’t want our children ruining their bodies and minds, which ALL substances do, despite our own misjudgements and that should be the objective for all and might mean changes of your own to set an example. Simply, if you’re life revolves around wine o’clock and the children see this perhaps it’s time for a change yourself? What examples are YOU setting?

Some guidance

Saying no to doing something will not result in the desired outcome, even if it comes from a place of love, at a time your teenager is expressing independence and feels the need to conform to peer pressures. It’s important to remember these facts when engaging and take yourself back to those confusing years before you engage. Barking instructions very seldom works and infact could backfire.

Parents generally believe alcohol is a more acceptable drug because it’s sold legally and quality is checked whereas drugs are of unknown quality and that should be the main point made to your teenagers. It’s a well known fact the personal, health and social impact of alcohol is very serious so bear that in mind also when discussing drugs and substances. Here are some tips to help you navigate this important aspect of parenting:

  1. Open and Honest Communication: Establish and maintain open lines of communication with your teenager. Encourage them to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without fear of judgment. Be a good listener and avoid being overly reactive or dismissive when discussing sensitive topics like drugs.
  2. Educate Yourself: Learn about common drugs, their effects, and warning signs of drug use. Stay informed about current trends and substances that teenagers may be exposed to. This knowledge will enable you to have more meaningful conversations and address any concerns effectively.
  3. Set Clear Expectations and Boundaries: Establish clear rules and expectations regarding drug use. Make it known that drug use is unacceptable in your family because of the health risks of taking unregulated substances, criminality and the strong addictive propensity of certain drugs. Clearly communicate the consequences of breaking these rules.
  4. Foster a Supportive Environment: Create an environment where your teenager feels comfortable and supported. Encourage them to engage in activities they enjoy, build healthy relationships, and pursue positive interests. By providing a strong support system, you can help reduce the likelihood of them turning to drugs as an outlet.
  5. Be a Positive Role Model: Set a good example by practicing healthy habits and responsible behaviour. Be mindful of your own substance use and ensure you are modelling the behaviour you expect from your teenager. Remember that your actions speak louder than words. Give up your substances you expect your family not to take including alcohol.
  6. Teach Decision-Making Skills: Help your teenager develop critical thinking and decision-making skills. Encourage them to consider the consequences of their choices and evaluate potential risks. Teach them strategies for handling peer pressure and making choices aligned with their values.
  7. Monitor and Supervise: While trust is important, it’s also crucial to monitor your teenager’s activities, especially during vulnerable periods. Keep an eye on their social circle, online activities, and whereabouts. Regularly check in with them and be aware of any changes in behavior or signs of distress.
  8. Stay Connected with School and Community: Maintain communication with your teenager’s school and engage in their academic progress. Encourage participation in extracurricular activities or community programs that promote a sense of belonging and connection. These activities can provide positive alternatives to drug use.
  9. Encourage Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Teach your teenager healthy ways to manage stress, anxiety, and other emotions. Encourage them to engage in physical activity, practice relaxation techniques, or explore creative outlets. These coping strategies can reduce the likelihood of turning to drugs for relief.
  10. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you suspect or discover that your teenager is using drugs, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Consult a healthcare professional, therapist, or addiction counselor who can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific situation.

Remember, building trust and maintaining open communication with your teenager is key. By being involved, supportive, and well-informed, you can help guide them towards making healthy choices and navigating the challenges they may face regarding drug use.

How do you rebuild trust once a partner cheats?

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How do build trust in a relationship if one partner has cheated

Rebuilding trust in a relationship after infidelity can be a traumatic, challenging and complex process. Most people’s default is to throw the towel in. It requires commitment, effort, and open communication from both partners to move through infidelity. What is often difficult is understanding that there are two sides to the issue, and despite contrary opinion, people who are unfaithful probably are unhappy in your relationship or with themselves and whilst it’s absolutely the wrong way forward to ever use it as an excuse, and very rarely is it, there are usually reasons people are self sabotaging and being unfaithful is one of those ways.

It is entirely valid to end a relationship because of it, but, at least consider the full picture before you decide. Have you ever considered being unfaithful? Is it because your relationship has failed? Is your behaviour partly responsible for your partner feeling they need attention elsewhere? Would it have been better for them just to end it? All valid question which few people honestly address. If you do decide to give it another go…………..

Here are some steps that can help in building trust again 

  1. Take responsibility: The partner who cheated must take full responsibility for their actions and show genuine remorse. They need to acknowledge the pain they caused and be willing to make amends. This will probably also mean that individual getting solo therapy and examining why they decided to cheat when they should have communicated or indeed what’s driving then to seek attention elsewhere. Is it self sabotaging the relationship? Do they have insecurity issues? Why didn’t they just end the relationship? Are they arrogant and egotistical? Is this a pattern? Maybe they were bored and trapped and saw this as a bit of a distraction? None of this excuses it. Ultimately it’s probably not a reflection of you or the relationship but issues they have with themselves. They need to embrace change and do some work with or without you (if they want a committed relationship)
  2. Open and honest communication: Both partners need to engage in open, honest, and non-defensive communication. The betrayed partner should be allowed to express their emotions, ask questions, and seek reassurance. The cheating partner should be transparent and willing to answer honestly.
  3. Seek professional help: Consider seeking the assistance of a couples therapist or counselor who specializes in infidelity. A professional can guide both partners through the healing process, provide tools for communication, and help navigate difficult emotions
  4. Establish boundaries and agreements: Rebuilding trust often involves setting clear boundaries and agreements for the future. These boundaries should be mutually agreed upon and help both partners feel secure. The cheating partner should be willing to be accountable and respectful of these boundaries.
  5. Allow time for healing: Rebuilding trust takes time and patience. Both partners need to understand that healing doesn’t happen overnight. It’s essential to be patient, supportive, and give each other the necessary space to heal and rebuild the relationship.
  6. Consistency and reliability: The partner who cheated needs to demonstrate consistency in their words and actions. They must follow through on their promises, be reliable, and rebuild trust gradually over time. Consistency is key in showing the betrayed partner that they can rely on their partner again
  7. Forgiveness and letting go: Forgiveness is a personal choice and may take time. The betrayed partner should be allowed to process their emotions and work towards forgiveness at their own pace. The cheating partner should be patient and understanding during this process
  8. Rebuilding intimacy: Rebuilding trust also involves reestablishing emotional and physical intimacy. Both partners need to work on rebuilding their connection and intimacy through shared activities, quality time, and affection.

Remember, rebuilding trust is a joint effort, and both partners need to be committed to the process. It’s crucial to assess whether both partners are willing to invest in the necessary work to rebuild the relationship and whether it’s a healthy choice for both individuals involved. It may be best to call it a day, and the might have been the reality before the cheating anyhows. 

Cold Water Immersion: Exploring the Surprising Link to Dopamine Release

Introduction: Cold water immersion, also known as cold water therapy or cold showers, has gained significant attention in recent years due to its potential health benefits. While the idea of exposing oneself to icy water may seem daunting, emerging research suggests that cold water immersion can offer numerous advantages, both physical and mental. In this blog post, we will delve into the science behind cold water immersion, its effects on the body, and its intriguing relationship with dopamine—the brain’s “feel-good” neurotransmitter.

The Physiology of Cold Water Immersion: When you expose your body to cold water, a series of physiological responses take place. Initially, the cold temperature causes blood vessels in the skin to constrict, redirecting blood flow to vital organs to maintain core temperature. As a result, the body experiences a surge in heart rate, breathing rate, and metabolic activity.

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Studies on Cold Water Immersion: Several studies have examined the effects of cold water immersion on various aspects of human health. Here are a few notable findings:

  1. Improved Recovery and Reduced Muscle Soreness: Cold water immersion has been commonly used by athletes as a recovery strategy. A study published in the Journal of Science and Medicine in Sport found that cold water immersion significantly reduced muscle soreness and improved recovery following intense exercise. The cold temperature helps reduce inflammation and decrease tissue damage, allowing athletes to bounce back quicker.
  2. Enhanced Mood and Mental Well-being: Taking cold showers may have an unexpected positive impact on mental health. Research published in Medical Hypotheses suggests that exposure to cold water stimulates the sympathetic nervous system and triggers the release of endorphins, which are known to improve mood and alleviate symptoms of depression.

Dopamine and its Role in Cold Water Immersion: Dopamine is a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure, reward, motivation, and overall well-being. It plays a crucial role in the brain’s reward pathway and is linked to feelings of satisfaction and happiness. Interestingly, recent studies have explored the connection between cold water immersion and dopamine release.

  1. Increased Dopamine Receptors: A study conducted by Finnish researchers at the University of Helsinki discovered that repeated cold exposure increases the number of dopamine receptors in the brain. These receptors play a vital role in dopamine signaling and are associated with improved mood regulation.
  2. Cold Water Immersion and Dopamine Release: Cold water immersion has been found to trigger the release of dopamine in the brain. A study published in PLOS ONE showed that exposure to cold water caused a significant increase in dopamine levels in the striatum—a region of the brain involved in reward processing and motor control.

The Benefits of Dopamine Release: Dopamine release through cold water immersion offers a range of potential benefits. Increased dopamine levels may lead to improved mood, enhanced motivation, reduced stress, and increased focus and productivity. Moreover, dopamine has been associated with better cognitive function, including memory and learning capabilities.

Conclusion: Cold water immersion is a practice that has gained recognition for its potential physical and mental benefits. The release of dopamine triggered by cold water exposure may contribute to the improvement of mood, motivation, and overall well-being. While further research is necessary to fully understand the mechanisms behind this relationship, the existing evidence suggests that incorporating cold water immersion into your routine could be a refreshing way to boost your mental and physical health.

Disclaimer: Cold water immersion may not be suitable for everyone, particularly those with certain medical conditions. It is advisable to consult with a healthcare professional before engaging in any new wellness practices.

Remember, the content provided in this blog is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice.

Building a Post Separation Life : A Guide to Taking Care of Your Health

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Going through a separation or divorce is undeniably challenging, emotionally and mentally. As men who have experienced this significant life change, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care and focus on rebuilding your life in a positive and healthy way. While the healing process may take time, there are steps you can take to look after your overall well-being. In this blog, we will explore some practical strategies to help you navigate this new chapter while taking care of your health and building a post separation life.

  1. Allow Yourself to Grieve: Separation brings with it a sense of loss, and it’s essential to acknowledge and process these emotions. Give yourself permission to grieve the end of the relationship. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, anger, or confusion that may arise. Consider seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist who can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings without judgment.
  2. Prioritize Mental Health: The emotional toll of a separation can have a significant impact on your mental well-being. Focus on nurturing your mental health by engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Consider taking up hobbies, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in physical activities like walking, running, or yoga. Don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help if you find yourself struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health concerns.
  3. Establish a Support Network: Building a strong support network is crucial during this challenging time. Reach out to close friends or family members who can provide a listening ear, guidance, and encouragement. Surrounding yourself with positive and understanding individuals can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation. Additionally, consider joining support groups or seeking therapy to connect with others who have gone through similar experiences. Making new friends and trying new things will build on hope and faith that brighter times await.
  4. Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle: Taking care of your physical health is essential for your overall well-being. Ensure you maintain a balanced diet, including nutritious foods that nourish your body. Regular exercise can also have a significant impact on your mood and energy levels. Try and avoid alcohol, drugs and excessive partying (and some would argue dating). Engage in activities you enjoy, whether it’s hitting the gym, cycling, or playing sports. Remember, physical activity releases endorphins, which can boost your mood and reduce stress. Try cold water therapy and saunas which will drive dopamine levels up (the feel good hormone)
  5. Get Adequate Rest: Amidst the emotional upheaval, it’s easy to neglect your sleep patterns. However, adequate rest is crucial for your physical and mental health. Establish a consistent sleep routine by going to bed and waking up at regular times. Create a calm and comfortable sleeping environment, and avoid stimulating activities before bedtime, such as excessive screen time. Prioritize getting the recommended seven to eight hours of quality sleep each night.
  6. Set Realistic Goals: Moving forward after a separation can be overwhelming, but setting realistic goals can provide a sense of direction and purpose. Take the time to reassess your personal and professional aspirations. Break your goals into smaller, manageable steps that can be accomplished gradually. Celebrate each milestone along the way, acknowledging your progress and growth.
  7. Seek Professional Help When Needed: Sometimes, the healing process requires professional guidance. If you find it challenging to navigate through your emotions or adjust to the new circumstances, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable insights, coping strategies, and support tailored to your specific needs.
  8. Get comfortable spending regular and scheduled times on our own where huge growth can occur. This may seen counter intuitive to start but it’s hugely important for processing and understand yourself
  9. Keep the faith. Think about the new life you want to build. Your hobbies and passions and what is meaningful to you and your purpose. What do you want to achieve and become in the next chapter of your life. What do you wish to improve. Take 100% ownership of where you are and what you are to build a better version of yourself.

Conclusion: While going through a separation is undoubtedly a difficult experience, it’s important to prioritize your health and well-being during this transitional period. By allowing yourself to grieve, focusing on mental and physical health, building a support network, and setting realistic goals, you can embark on a journey of healing and personal growth. Remember to be patient with yourself, as healing takes time. Embrace this new chapter as an opportunity for self-discovery, resilience, and personal transformation

If you need or wish to get some support or coaching on this period of your life email ed@bluemindapproach.com for an initial chat.

The best nutrition for men

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The best nutrition for men, like for anyone, is a well-balanced diet that provides all the essential nutrients their bodies need to function properly. Obviously, exercise and looking after your hydration and mind health are required on top of decent nutrition. With so many illnesses related to fats and sugar and the relationship between gut health and mental health it is vital to improve your diet and nutrition.

Here are some key components of a healthy diet for men:

  1. Protein: Men generally have higher protein requirements than women due to higher muscle mass. Good sources of protein include lean meats, poultry, fish, eggs, dairy products, lentils, broccoli, quinoa, guava, reek yoghurt, hemp, chia and flaxseeds, almonds and also soya if you prefer a healthy veggie meat substitute
  2. Fruits and vegetables: These are important for providing vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and dietary fibre. Aim for a variety of colourful fruits and vegetables to ensure a wide range of nutrients.
  3. Whole grains: Opt for whole grains such as whole wheat bread, brown rice, quinoa, and oats. These provide complex carbohydrates, fibre, and essential nutrients.
  4. Healthy fats: Include sources of healthy fats like avocados, nuts, seeds, olive oil, and fatty fish (such as salmon or sardines). These provide omega-3 fatty acids, which are beneficial for heart health.
  5. Calcium: Men need adequate calcium for strong bones and teeth. Dairy products like milk, cheese, and yogurt are good sources of calcium. If you’re lactose intolerant or avoid dairy, consider fortified plant-based alternatives like almond milk or tofu.
  6. Hydration: Staying hydrated is important for overall health. Aim to drink plenty of water throughout the day and limit sugary beverages. At least 2 litres per day and try and avoid drinking it via coffee and tea as they act as natural diuretics, which on the flip side rid your body of salt and water, reducing blood pressure, but you need to drink less caffeine and more water to stay hydrated.
  7. Limited processed foods and added sugars: Try to minimize your intake of processed foods, sugary snacks, sodas, and sugary drinks. These often provide empty calories and lack important nutrients and can lead to sugar spikes and crashes and thus unstable moods.

Remember that individual nutritional needs can vary based on factors such as age, activity level, and overall health. It’s always a good idea to consult with a healthcare professional or a registered dietitian for personalized dietary advice.

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Why don’t I like myself?

Why do many people struggle with liking themselves?

As someone that struggled to like themselves for the majority of my life, I was shocked and surprised to learn that many people struggle with liking themselves. It’s an incredibly complex issue that often stems from childhood experiences and limiting beliefs imposed upon us by parents, teachers, friends, society and that boy on the bus that threatened to punch you because you accidently clipped him with your school bag!

I believe one of the main reasons people struggle to like themselves is due to unresolved issues from their inner child. We all have an inner child within us, which represents our younger selves. The inner child holds all the pain, joys, and fears that we experienced as children (Did a childhood experience just pop to mind?).

Unfortunately, some of us never dealt with these experiences, and they continue to haunt us in adulthood.

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An early unresolved childhood issue

It’s the autumn of 1996 – I’m 11 years old. A new school meant new classes, new friends and new experiences. However, I did not realise that it would also mean experiencing a level of embarrassment and pain that I never thought possible.

I was always self-conscious about my body, even though I was quite active. The idea of showering with other boys at school terrified me, but I knew that it was a routine part of secondary school life. So, reluctantly, I joined the other boys in the communal shower after PE.

But as soon as I stepped into the shower room, my worst fears were realised. Some of the boys pointed and laughed at me, teasing me about my “chubby” body. A teacher made a comment about my shape that sliced through me like a hot knife through butter. I wanted to sink into the ground and disappear.

From that day on, I dreaded every PE lesson, every rugby training, because I knew what was coming.

Body shaming

Every time I was naked I felt exposed, vulnerable and ashamed. I began to obsess over my appearance, checking myself out in the mirror for hours on end and scrutinising every inch of my body. I would borrow my brother’s weights, hide in my room and do bicep curls and press-ups until bedtime. I began to see flaws everywhere I looked, and I hated myself for it.

Years went by and my trauma only grew worse. I refused to take my shirt off in public, shower with the rest of the team after rugby matches, sleep naked or topless in relationships. I would wear make-up to cover spots. There would be times in relationships, I struggled to be intimate with my partners, afraid that they would judge me in the way the boys and the teacher at school had.

It wasn’t until I changed my relationship with my physical self that I began to recover from years of body shaming and self-hatred. With time, I learned to love myself for who I was – flaws and all. I gained a sense of comfort in my own skin.

It feels like my experience is far too common in our society. No one should have to fear being naked or ashamed of their body.

Connect and heal with your inner child

When we aren’t able to connect and heal our inner child, we may develop limiting beliefs about ourselves. Do you remember a time where you were told as a child that you weren’t good enough or not capable of achieving your dreams? These beliefs can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and a lack of confidence. Sound familiar?

Moreover, limiting beliefs can be perpetuated by negative self-talk, which reinforces these ideas about ourselves. As a result, we may grow up with negative self-image and feel stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage.

It’s essential to recognise that these beliefs and feelings aren’t the fault of the individual but rather the result of learned behaviour from the childhood. However, we have the power to change them. By acknowledging our inner child (Read Ed Bassett’s thoughts on the inner child here – https://bluemindapproach.com/understanding-the-inner-child/ ) and working towards healing, we can break free from limiting beliefs and star to see ourselves in a more positive light.

Self-love isn’t something that comes naturally for everyone. It’s a complicated process that requires a deep understanding of our past experiences and the beliefs that drive our behaviours. Through introspection, therapy and personal development, we can learn to love and accept ourselves fully. We owe it to ourselves to work towards this goal because ultimately, how we feel about ourselves impacts every aspect of our lives.

Learn how to like yourself

Liking yourself can be a challenging journey, especially if you have experienced hardships such as divorce, addiction, and emotional eating. However, it is possible overcome these obstacles with patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to heal – I’ll offer some helpful tips and strategies that might benefit you on this path towards liking yourself.

Recovering from divorce and separation.

Divorce can leave you feeling lost, alone, and unworthy of love. However, it’s important to remind yourself that divorce does not define your worth as a person. Begin by practicing self-compassion and forgiveness. It’s okay to feel hurt and angry, but holding onto those feelings will only prevent you from moving forward. Try writing down your thoughts and emotions in a journal to process them. Seek out support from friends, family, or a therapist who can help you navigate this difficult time. Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that bring you joy and make you feel good. It would be wise to be avoid alcohol and drugs.

Healing from a gambling addiction

Gambling addiction can be destructive and cause significant financial and emotional harm. The first step towards healing is admitting that you have a problem and seeking help. Join a support group or seek out a therapist or a coach. Someone that has actually been through the experience.

Managing emotional eating.

Emotional eating is a common way to cope with stress and negative emotions. However, it can lead to weight gain, health problems, and feelings of shame and guilt. Learning to identify and manage your emotions without turning to food is key to managing emotional eating. Try keeping a food diary to identify triggers that lead to emotional eating episodes. Instead of reaching for food, try finding alternative coping mechanisms like going for a walk, talking to a friend, or practicing deep breathing exercises. Seek out professional help if you need it, such as seeing a dietitian or therapist who specializes specifically on the topic.

Self-compassion, honesty, and a willingness to heal will help you. 

In conclusion, liking yourself requires self-compassion, honesty, and a willingness to heal. Take things one step at a time, and seek support from loved ones or professionals when needed. Remember that setbacks are part of the journey, and it’s okay to ask for help. You deserve happiness and a fulfilling life, and with time and patience, you can achieve it.